hi! everyone , happily good morning and Assalammualaikum
wanna mumbling and running my fingers on the keypad today!!
do you ever heard about people out there, trying to be the best in front of their lover by refer to the books?
I recently do that. hahahahha..
but let me share my view regarding this, well it is not the hot issue , but it just something that just crossed in my mind while I look at the sky in this morning.
there's a lot of book, journal, blog, website that bring you to the step of going to be a best girlfriends in a relationship. what they teach you?
- to be nice
- lower down your ego
- smile
- polite and soft hearted
- leave all the harsh words that you used to be.
- pamper and romantic
- be gentle as a girl.
and so on... heheeeh
well I'm not here to judge it as : BAD... NO!! okay.... to me it such a sweet thing that you do in order to remain the best relationship that you had and practice to be better than before. so Sweet!! don't you think so?
to me, that is okay if you allz follow what is the best and affordable for you. But when your life just depends on the way they ask you to be, sometime it will not look natural. In fact, it will look fake. why? It is because, you will pretend to be gentle though the truth is you are not like that, and then you feel " WTF, why i need to be like this? this is not me..", and there're statement ' pampering with him, he love the way you pampering with him' and then what you do? of course be more pamper towards him, and then the suddenly changes of yours will make him questioning all the time "what is wrong with you?" I'm not trying to deny it , that is true, who are the boys in this world doesn't want their gf pampering with them? no one. okay...
but, what is exactly you have to do is, try to find out what exactly your character that they most fave of. after that, you suit all the measures that you have read with your own character. so it seem not to be fake at all, and boys not going to questioning all day long, and you will be more comfortable with yourself.
plus, you're not trying to discredit yourself. It is because:
- you learn
- find out what are the character that you have
- suit it with your character.
doesn't it look naturally?? I just trying to tell you guys, some people getting trouble on this, finally, their boyfriends will say this " I don't want anybody except you, I just only love you and not 'this'" that is sweet things, because it's shown that he accept you as who you are.
conclusion is
- you don't have to be someone else
- be yourself
- don't be fake, try to suit it with your character.
we actually need a reference in our life to be more better and better. we just need to repair instead of change it.
love is a wonderful in this world. find out what is the wonderful in your relationship. appreciate the wonderful of yours.
p/s : don't be fake or you will suicide your life. hehehehe
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